[DeepThought]

Forcing equalizations is a tricky business that can lead to hearing loss.
When your right ear is stuck try tilting your head to the left and equalizing, it might let you put some air in it.
Other solutions are:
Try to equalize as often as possible, even 3 times per meter if that is what you need to avoid these problems. You can try to equalize continuously from the surface.
A better long-term solution (if you can achieve it) is to work on opening your tubes in similar fashion to hands-free equalization. You might not be able to equalize hands-free but you might get rid of your current problem.

If diving causes you pain or bleeding then you're doing something wrong, I would work on fixing it and not wait for future cumulative damage or one-time trauma to prove me that I'm wrong.
Vali, I would worry if I was you.