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The best clue I can give is to work with the sensation at the start of a yawn. I practiced this when I was a kid - never using force - just always that feeling and sound when you hear the breath from the inside. I taught myself to do each ear independently (long winters). I don't normally need to use my hands to equalize - at least not down to 60 feet or so. Anyway, learn to isolate the sensation when you feel the ears open at the start of a yawn - then work with it.