Beached dolphin!!!

[xsaul]

WaterRat here.
I suspect I cannot be the only Freediver in this nasty position!:head

My Hubby is quite ill and I must take care of him. That's OK. I love my Hubby!:inlove
However, my doctors recommend I continue diving. They see how good it is for me. I'm most grateful for this, as most people in Midwest USA have never heard of Freediving.
Folks still ask "Do you jump out of airplanes?" And I still explain what Freediving is....
I am making headway. Yes! Really.
Sometimes I don't have to explain it. Sometimes I have a dive buddy for a day, or a willing student. It's always been short-lived.
The students return to school at the end of the summer. Some have learned quite a bit for their young ages. They're kids.

It's been a huge pleasure. A gift from Heaven.
I guess now I feel kinda lost. Like a beached dolphin.

I don't really wanna be too far away from my sweet Hubby. He really does need more care than I can give. We do have family in the area. They can (and do) help.
Maybe all I'm doing is whining because I hate being away from my beloved waterworld.
Hubby is soooo much more important than------------------------------- My wet 6s... my imaginary dolphins who swim right up under me and all around me in that swimming pool... the church bells I can practically hear... they ring deep as from hundreds of feet below the ocean's surface...they sound as ancient as Atlantis....
I just figured you guys (and gals) are probably the only folks I have regular access to who understand.

And yeah. I have walking. Yoga. Dry statics. Wet ones in the bathtub.

My sweet Hubby loves me sooo much he INSISTS I NOT give up talking to you guys, and he'll probably want me to walk to the YMCA and dive. He can barely walk across the ROOM without FALLING.
I don't drive due to some conditions that would prevent me being a safe driver.
Anyhows, enough of complaining. I just need a new plan. Once a Freediver, always a Freediver. It gets in your blood. I think we're born with it. I started before I can even remember.
I will be looking for ways to continue, without shirking higher priorities. :inlove
WaterRat
xsaul@kdsi.net (Besides, my buddies on Christianfreedivers see absolutely no reason for me to quit! I'M CALLED. SOME FOLKS DUB IT DESTINY.)

 

[covert]

aargh typed a whole sa and then ran spell check and poof all gone, who knew maybe my spelling is that bad the spell check refused to let me post.... So ill just drop a summary of what i said.

I dont think you should quit by any measure even though I have the greatest respect for your situation and the post you made. (you sound like an absolute gem of a person) I also know how draining and taxing it can be to look after a loved one in need.

I am no pshycologist, but I beleive that looking after someone 24/7 can put so much emotional strain on any given person (no matter how good your intentions) and this could in turn leed to negativity. Where all you want to do is look after your hubby as best as possible. A sort of a oxymoron effect if you know what I mean. I beleive that for you to keep a healthy frame of mind a postive attitude towards your situation you need to sometimes do someting you love and destress, to renew your mind and thoughts so that you can look after your hubby just so much better. (I also hope he is in a situation where he can get better)

So my advise to you is. Make hubby some soup, stick him in front of the tele with the sport channel on. Phone a family memeber to come keep him company, dust of your kit and make haste to some watery oasis. Forget about life relax and DIVE. Till you feel you cant dive anymore. Get out of the water and go give your hubby a hug. And life will just feel so much lighter.

I dont know if this helps at all, my heart goes out to you and your hubby.

Regards
Sean

 

[shoutatthesky]

I would say GO DIVING even if it is only once a week. Everyone needs some 'ME' time. You can't help hubby if you are sick yourself.

I see in your profile your are a novellist. Maybe you are the person to write the pamflet we all need! called 'What is Freediving?' that we can carry with us (waterproof) and give to people who ask us what we are doing. It is something you could do at home. You could even start a new exercise called 'Apnea Typing'.

Stay strong. Best of luck.

 

[fogish]

My wife is going through this with me. Until just recently I was having 2-12 seizures every hour. Things became very hard on her, we had just moved to a new state and everything went wrong medically for me. She ended up going here: Wellspouse Forum :: Index She was able to find some support and help there.

One of the hardest things on her (from my point of view) was she had no hobbies or friends, so coming home to be with me became very depressing to her. If there is anything you can do to just help you relax and recoup a bit, I think that would aid you just as much as friends and family.

I hope some of this has made some sense, I am still in the middle of all of it so I am not thinking very clearly about it. I hope things get better or at least easier for you soon. Keep diving.

 

[xsaul]

Lloyd, my Rolland's brother, is taking him to the hospital Thursday for more tests. Like with you--his medicals are hitting him all at once. A lump in his lung. Another one on his spine. More abnormalities. Lots of infected bloody spit. (I hope I'm not grossing you out too much). Falls constantly. Severe constipation. ETC.
I can get so depressed because he's so stubborn about accepting ANY help. I'm way too small to lift him when he falls. So at night, we sometimes actually crawl around the house to get him to the bathroom. Now that Lloyd has witnessed the magnitude of Hubby's problems, he can't make out he's "doing just fine!"
If you're a praying man--PRAY.
Thanks.
WaterRat (I'm assuming your WIFE is the family diver. I have epilepsy, but it's not severe, it's partial seizures, and it's well controlled. I find diving smooths my bipolar mood swings as well as keeping me physically fit)
xsaul@kdsi.net

 

[xsaul]

Thanks guys. YOU are the GEMS
My Lovey is now in the hospital. I don't know how long he will be there. He has many serious problems, and YES, it's difficult to care for a handicapped spouse when you are handicapped yourself.
Diving was what kept me sane--literally. So Rollie's brother taking him to the hospital this morning and a wonderfully relaxing day in the pool yesterday was a real GODSEND.
Now knowing he's being cared for around the clock by trained professionals and I can still call him during most hours of the day--even if it's a short conversation (due to his condition) and long distance.

The Good Lord has been good to me. I still have YOU guys to talk diving with.
Sean Covert---YOU are a GOOD GUY. It seems like ALL the REALLY good guys I know are LOUSY SPELLERS!!!

Y'all are GOOD GUYS. Maybe someday--Lake Wazzie. It always comes around my birthday. I never have transportation.
I DO HAVE FREE TRANSPORTATION TO A DIVE SPOT THAT *NEVER ENDS*

If I'm driving y'all crazy with Christian talk, please forgive me. I was truly Thunderstruck when I discovered ''JESUS IS BIGGER THAN 6:40"! Even one done by a Girl in 1976--19 days after Jacques Mayol did his pioneering "First Freediver to hit 100 meters down."
Yes, my character Phoebe, based on me--will prove to herself that JESUS IS BIGGER THAN ANYTHING.
I will also (within Novel pages) explore what might have happened to our beloved Jacques on the other side.
God willing.
WaterRat
xsaul@kdsi.net

 

[deep thinker]

Hey there, Ive been following this thread and Ive finally come up with something usefull and informative to add that mite be something you know allready or something you can use in your situation in the future
Taking care of someone you love all the time does put alot of strain on someone phisically aswell as mentally allthough we dont admit it and you do it because you love that person and you know that they would do the same for you or that they have sometime in the past.
Now this strain your under does some time or another have a negative influence on yourself where you reach a stage that you cant help that person in a positive way anymore because you yourself arent that healthy.
What Im trying to say is that to be able to help those around you heal you have to be able to heal yourself and the only way you can effectively do that is by spending time on yourself with yourself. To have a healthy body you need a healthy mind and so my suggestion would be to at least once a day find a hour or so to spend on something that you do that benefits only you, in all our cases that would probably be something infolved with diving or water , from there adjust your times in such a way that it suits your personal needs and youll find that in the end of the day you will have a much more positive energy and feeling aout your situation and be able to help and support those around you much better. I know it sounds funny but the most important person to you should be yourself and Im not saying be a self centred prat, Im saying look after your own needs too cause if you dont you will probably reach a stage where you just dont care anymore and go through life spending taxing days on everything but never see the beauty of it all

 

[fogish]

WaterRat (I'm assuming your WIFE is the family diver. I have epilepsy, but it's not severe, it's partial seizures, and it's well controlled. I find diving smooths my bipolar mood swings as well as keeping me physically fit)

Actually my wife is not the diver, I am. I am Epileptic (simple and complex partial) and Bi-Polar just like you! I started having Non Epileptic seizures and those have been the hardest on me since medication can't do anything for it. I am now getting proper treatment for them and I haven't had one in a week. I have been out of the water for 6 months, that has been driving me crazy since I find it aids in my mood swings as well, but it has been having as large an effect on my wife too.

It sounds like this week is the week for people to start getting healthy again. It is great that you have gotten back into the water. I hope that you are able to continue to relax and enjoy life and that your husband continues to improve. All the best.