Tricky question.
Respiration rates vary all over the place, often for good reason. Still, your breathup is almost certainly way into hyperventilation territory and you should reduce your ventilation rate. I'll try to provide some overview.
Nearly all divers hyperventilate some; most aren't aware they do. Trux's numerical example is great for demonstrating how easy it is to HV. For beginners and a lot of intermediate divers, if they did not hyperventilate some, they would have to be satisfied with short and often uncomfortable dives. The trick is "how much."
Too much can get you in bad trouble and nobody knows how much is too much for you. Hence, less is always better for safety. The odd thing is, once you start to get serious about technique, less or no hyperventilation starts to yield better, longer, more comfortable dives (in some situations).
Something else, your resting respiration rate in cold, rough, currenty water is considerably higher than sitting on the couch. Trying to limit your breathing to the couch rate when diving adverse conditions won't work very well.
Now, none of this is very helpful to you today, right now. Sorry, welcome to the real world. There is no substitute for experimenting with your body, your technique, your conditions.
Trying to be more practical, if it was me, I'd get away from your long deep breathing. Try breathing normally for the conditions, ie, forget about your breathing and let your subconscious handle it. Just before you dive, add three fast deep purge breaths. Experiment with this, try various combinations of purge # and depth, always with the goal of reducing HV to zero. At first, this might reduce your dive time, but practice brings it back.
Good luck with it
Connor