This is an extremely touchy topic. I dive with out anyone except life guards that like to stand there...
We have to realize that for some of us a buddy isn't right around the corner, or the city, or the county. You also have to remember that some people are scared to reach out because of social disorders, anxiety or depression. I've been hunting for a dive buddy up here persistently and relentlessly with no positive results. The closest I got was sending an email with no reply.... Diving unsafe feels a lot less dangerous when you can't find anybody. And for some people (myself included) the world is a noisy chaotic mess and the only way to escape that is to go deeper into the blue, were it's quite, peaceful, pure and best of all in the moment. The farthest you think ahead when your underwater is what will I see down there and how satisfying with that breath feel when I brake the surface.
Not all of us have the chance to make friends and find dive buddies, that's why every night while I think I hope that no one takes the safety, fun and friendship of there dive buddy for granted.
If I'm ever in Nova Scotia, I'd love to dive with you.
Local knowledge is king!
I know of a handful of ppl out there that are diving... But it's not easy to find one that you get along with AND their schedule matches yours.
You need a pool of 5-6 regulars so that you have 1 buddy available to go when you want to.
I find that freedivers-proper (DYN, CWT, STA, etc) are quite easy going and friendly to new ppl. Very little ego involved, since your performance is your performance. Very little subjectivity involved... So less room for opinion and interpretation.
With spearfishermen, this isn't always the case. There is secrecy and territorial ism over dive spots and a "my fish is bigger than your fish" compensation thing that sometimes happens.
This isn't a hard and fast rule. I've met some asshole freediver pricks and also some super genuine, ego-less spearos.
You just need to find the good guys and then believe me... You WILL be safer, you WILL still feel at peace and sharing similar experiences with other good-guy apneists really is rewarding.
A significant # of apneists like the sport because it can be a form of escapism and peace, in an otherwise hectic world. I like that aspect of it myself.
I just think its more rewarding (and safer) to be able to escape with like-minded individuals. We need more of us around / available as dive-buddies and can't afford to lose one every couple of years to a shallow water blackout.